More Baby
I felt the baby move for the fist time a few days ago. Since then, it has moved every day. One day it was even turning flips or something. I like feeling it move. I usually sort of think of it as a shapeless flesh-colored thing, but the moving reminds me that it has arms and legs and even some of its senses. I’m excited to see it on the ultrasound (in 13 days).
I’m not so sure it’s a girl anymore. I had some freaky spotting last week after a Pilates DVD, and that really made me realize how silly it is to focus on whether it’s a boy or a girl. I want a healthy child. Either way, I’ll be happy. I can’t deny still wishing a little for a girl (all those adorable dresses, the dolls, the tea parties, the princess costumes, the hair styles, the pink bedrooms, the wedding someday, the female relationship), but I will not be disappointed with a boy. A boy will teach me things about boys. I don’t know how to be a mother to a little boy, but I’m sure I could figure it out. We could make forts in the living room and maybe cook together and play board games. And a mother/son relationship is supposedly different. Perhaps it isn’t fraught with all the teenage tension of a mother/daughter relationship.
I had a fortune that said, “Your dearest wish will come true.” I interpreted that to mean a daughter, but now my dearest wish is a healthy baby. I’ll be so happy either way.
On a side note, I have the best husband in the world. I like to brag about him. He makes every day better. He’s been telling me every day that I’m beautiful, which means more now than it ever has. He buys things at the grocery store to tempt me. He goes shopping for baby things when he really isn’t that interested. He rubs my back. He buys me flowers. He helps me with household chores. He kills spiders even when he’s scared of them. And the big one: he dealt with the fungus in the coffee pot. My hero.
lemony said,
September 8, 2006 at 8:27 am
Keep talking about him like that and you’ll ruin his reputation
On the baby side of things, I’m sure you’ll do well with whomever you end up with, and either way, Magnus will have someone to play Legos with, even if they are pink Legos.
You do realize if you have a girl, though, that along with the ballerina costume, cute curly hair, and red sparkle shoes, that she will probably be wielding a Light Saber and wearing a pirate hat. And if you have a boy, his plastic dinosaurs and robots will be living in a nice cooperative farming community on the Prairie, and will all have the exemplary English manners of Mr. Knightley and Mr. Darcy.
And she’s/he’s going to be cute, there’s no getting around that.
magnus said,
September 8, 2006 at 8:35 am
LEGOS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Thanks, Mel!!! I hadn’t even thought of that yet! Hurray for babies and legos!!! Even if it is a girl we can make houses and cars for dolls to play in. Kevin and I used to supplement all of our other toy sets with lego items for them to interact with. Bases for GI Joe, individual Transformers that could actually transform, etc. This’ll be awesome.
Yeah, what Mel said. With both of us influencing the baby, it’ll be doing all kinds of stuff as it grows up. Eventually it’ll decide what it likes better, but we get to influence it while growing up.
And if it’s a girl, I’m going to do my damndest to make her a cute gamer chick that all of the gamer guys’ll want. It’s just my duty as a gamer Dad.
Kate said,
September 8, 2006 at 9:33 am
Yep! We will have to start with duplos or something, since Legos would be a choking hazard.
Good point, Mel. This baby will not just be a boy or a girl. It will be our kid, so it will have things in common with both of us (regardless of its gender).
Samantha Tengelitsch said,
September 8, 2006 at 9:38 am
I think it’s great that you both have so much to off the baby, regardless of gender. This baby will be loved and that’s what matters most. The legos are a definite plus. I have all girls and we play with legos. I’ve never made a distinction in the types of toys we buy for our children. They play with trucks and dolls. I think it’s wonderful when we see boys play with dolls that aren’t wearing commando uniforms and carrying little plastic guns.
The idea of pink legos makes me smile. The girls have the large lego sets since we still have a little person in the house and they make castles and stables and horses out of the legos. Or boats with pirates (we let them watch Pirates of the Caribbean) – I’m not sure that was a good judgement call, but they seemed to enjoy the adventure.
Bottom line, kids teach us all sorts of things regardless of gender. They’re all curious, all idealists and all wonderfully intuitive about life. I’m excited for you both.
Kate said,
September 8, 2006 at 9:40 am
LOL! Just read the first line of Sam’s comment. Hilarious typo! We do have many things to “off” the baby.
lemony said,
September 8, 2006 at 10:11 am
Also, never underestimate the power of dirt or cardboard in any form. Hours of fun for the whole family, and at a very low price!
magnus said,
September 11, 2006 at 12:27 pm
Yeah, I’m always planning ways to off the baby. Hehe.
magnus said,
September 11, 2006 at 12:29 pm
Oh and Sam I wouldn’t let them see the second Pirates movie. It was a little gory in spots, and I certainly would have had nightmares as a kid (of course I was very impressionable too).
iamsamiam said,
September 12, 2006 at 9:31 am
Yeah, someone told me I shouldn’t watch it either. :-0 I do love Captain Jack Sparrow, though, so I likely will. But, yeah, no for the kids. We didn’t want them to see the first one, but they were insistent little people.